Not everyone knows or can experience life alone or life with others. Some choose to be single while many search for compatible companions. Many though have little choice when it comes to living alone and some live with others in unhappy circumstances and can feel loneliness and separation.

This is not a debate and it certainly isn’t a self doubting diatribe on my behalf. I just want to put my feelings and observations on paper as I see them and in no way do I want to belittle others feelings or ways of life.

I have had the great fortune to live alone and with others and I can honestly say that both have their benefits but having company is way better than not.

This has been especially noticeable in a small home where space is not luxury option. Equally, bouncing around a large home can have its drawbacks as one can retreat into areas and not be part of the group.

I’m not saying that we should buy the big slipper and clown suits that allow communal wearing of garments as that would be so eccentric that even a mad hatter would question the logic. What I am saying is that its is great to find a happy balance and have the experience to know what life is like at opposing ends of the scale; albeit at the more comfortable ends of said scale for I have never experienced the devastation of living alone or together without the comfort of a home to live in.

Being single can be wonderful as one can come and go as is their want, can live like a nudist, watch whatever is on the television and just be selfish without being selfish if you get what I mean. The problem with this is that it is very difficult to adjust to a more communal life and activities that involve others. Its cool for a while but can get a bit brain dullingly and boring. I guess it depends how mental or not one is.

So what of life with someone else? My guess is that it depends on who that or those someone elses are and what relationship you have.

Personally, I have been very fortunate to be able to say that each and every stage of my living lifestyle have been, actually, very good. That is to say that I’ve enjoyed family life at home with parents and brother and then the experiment of single flat habitation. From married life with cats to a shared life with a dog, it’s all been good and bad from time to time and I don’t think I would want to change any of it. Its funny how the human can adapt to varying ways and still find comfort.

The main thing I am grateful for, after being advised over many years, was to seek medical help for depression or mind imbalances. For this I will be eternally grateful and would urge anyone suffering to do likewise. It does make a massive difference.

Today I live in a small house with three others and although its a bit cramped it is still warm and full of good vibes.

I’ve been talking about space and the frustrations of not having enough along with the knowledge that moving or extending is not an option due to finances (the lack of). Well I am at the point now that after making a few adjustments (with a few more to come once we have saved) life is bright and I don’t really want to move. I love my little home as it suits my little car and present aspirations so why move to something unknown.

The future is a mystery and anything can change or happen to steer a course but for now feeling companionship is far better than debt and the hassles of stress.