Black Friday? Cyber Monday?

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Now don’t get me wrong but I like a bargain as much as the next person. Who wouldn’t?

I mean, if a television is reduced from £1000 to £500 then that’s a massive saving in anyone’s book.

But its only a bargain if you need it or have put off buying one and have struggled along with an old poor quality machine.

Have we, as people, become so obsessed with shopping and buying unwanted crap that we have to fight one another just so we can grab the things that will end up in the back of a cupboard or on eBay in a few weeks time?

Anyway what is “Black Friday and why do we have “Cyber Monday”?

It’s beyond me but the only answer I can come up with is that due to Globalisation, which I touched upon last week, we have adopted an American festival of greed that is linked to their Thanksgivings celebrations. Our version is possible Boxing Day and Bank Holiday Monday after Christmas.

Our commercialism driven by shop managers (the senior ones and owners) will stoop to any level to get their sticky hands on our money and will hoodwink us into thinking that the products that have not sold or are last seasons styles or gadgets are what we need. It’s a way of shifting, and shafting, second-rate goods to make room for the new.

This frenzied attack on the high street and online shops is out of control and fifty years ago these people would have been sectioned under the mental health act and taken off to hospital.

Some folk will buy and give gifts way above what they can afford whilst labouring under the impression they have bagged a bargain for cousin Josh or sister Tracy. The terrible consequences are that in a few weeks the credit card bill will come in and the sudden reality will show itself in the form of “unable to meet the minimum payment” and then the heady fall into debt will spiral out of control. All this and then they see their items in the local charity shop, on eBay or tucked away in a corner and the realisation is that they shouldn’t have bothered.

And don’t think buying for yourself is any better. If one can afford it then great but when debt comes a calling and the bailiffs want their money and goods to the value then it all seems a bit forlorn and stupid.

The only winners are the retail bosses and the very few who will snatch a bargain that is actually warranted and needed.

We have, however, been so conditioned into commercialism that this all comes across as normal but in my mind it just causes stress, depression, anger and hurt.

I went to see a friend last night for a chat and I can tell you that we have both come away with a feeling of warmth and happiness that no material gift could begin to replace. Okay the beer helped us along but we had genuine fun.

That’s what we should be endorsing and teaching our kids not showering them with gifts to compensate for guilty feelings and a lack of moral judgement.

So let’s try not to get sucked onto this commercial and materialistic merry-go-round and bear in mind that a bargain is only a bargain if it is genuinely needed.

The upshot is that where fools rush in there will be genuine bargains in weeks to come.

 

Globalisation!

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So. Globalisation. What exactly does that mean and what are the affects of this word on the average person round the world?

Well lets start with the meaning.

It’s all about how business, technology and everything is connected and grown globally. What were once small businesses have evolved into massive corporations, cultures that were separated are now being integrated, research and development has sped up and brands have become household names all over the world where before they were limited to their home nation.

That’s the basic meaning of globalisation and it has resulted in some very different outcomes.

A few decades ago business, compared to today’s, were relatively small and everyone had a fair bite at the cherry. The chief executive or managing director would have responsibility for the running of things and that would be reflected in a higher salary but it was often limited to a ceiling of only ten times what the average worker received.

Technologies changed slowly so one could get used to products and information gradually and get full use from those things before the next generation came to market.

People worked, played, and lived locally and local trades and businesses could thrive and the markets for housing were affordable and set by local incomes.

Society was safer and more caring as communities grew up together, education and morals were greater and life in general was far less complicated and stressful.

Today we see mass exploitation, over inflated house prices, an ignorant youth (who can hardly read and write let alone work), corporate and international corruption in almost every field of business and faceless organisations which take little or no responsibility for their actions.

The chief executive or managing director can receive two or three hundred times what the average worker receives but want to take less accountability. The workers are squeezed from all directions through bullying, low wages, migration and economy drives.

The banking crisis and subsequent crash saw businesses and corporations cut back on their running costs but never did we see senior management or the very people who caused the problems suffer; in fact most grew fatter off the exploitation by using excuses of saving money and cutting waste when still spending (more quite often) on pointless clipboard missions and state of the art office blocks.

Time will tell and often one’s campaign game is totally different to the reality of how things are run or will be managed. This can be said, as an example, about Mr Donald Trump. He delivered a bigoted, brash, ludicrous and offensive campaign but managed to take one of the world’s most responsable  and influenceable jobs. Many will have opinions and fears about this position of president but how many have independently listened to  his game plan after election?

The Hillary Clinton package would have been fine for her rich cronies and powerful counterparts but would have done little to change the lives of the masses. She was caught out and the comeuppance of her actions led to her loss.

The world needs change and needs shaking out of this time-bomb attitude that will have no choice but to explode. We need champions and a different way of looking at how we do things like never before. We need radical ideas and reforms.

This attitude that globalisation is working and is good is the very thing that will see devastation in the not to distant future.

The world cannot carry on with a few commanding the wealth while the rest are left fighting for scraps off the castle floor.

When the average bod cannot afford the next Iphone,  new car, plush sofa, labelled clothes and the holiday abroad what do they think will happen? Demand goes down so less are made. Result, fewer jobs, less profit and subsequently the downward spiral will start as each level will see less and less and casualties will undoubtedly will be left.

The, already, super-rich won’t care because they will sit lording it from their ivory palaces. It’s the new management and work force that will suffer and its this generation that has to roll out change or embrace the new ideas from the brave and, possibly insane, ones who want to do things differently.

Globalisation, corporate ignorance and greed cannot carry on for much longer before the bubble has to burst, but what will be the outcome is anyone’s guess. So before you dismiss Donald Trump, Nigel Farage, Theresa May and such-like names we should give them a chance. The world can’t get much more disastrous than it already is.

I know many will disagree with these words and I have only picked up on a few aspects of the title of the article but these are my opinions today (with hindsight and more information and action I may change my stance) and I am open to other’s views.

Thanks once again for reading if you have got this far.

Christmas’s Good Will? Judge for Yourselves.

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Recently, my father was in hospital and, although he was in pain and needed tests, his sense of humour and interaction with those around him remained.

What shocked us was the answers he received from one of the lovely nurses that attended his needs.

He asked her what Christmas meant to her and what it celebrated.

Her response was that it was a time of celebrating some winter festival by giving and receiving gifts, serving sumptuous feasts and getting together with friends and family.

“Okay; Have you ever heard of a man called Jesus?”asked dad.

“No, can’t say I have. Why, who was He?” replied the nurse with an expression of confusion played out on her pretty face.

“He was the son of God and Christmas is a celebration of His birthday as he was born on the 25th of December.” dad explained.

Has it got that bad that commercialism, selfishness, overindulgence and overspending have overshadowed the real reason for christmas?

As you all know, or should by now, I love the odd gadget and would love to see one  under the tree (albeit a small felt 9″ affair) on Christmas morning but I also appreciate why this day is special. We should be kind to one another the year round and maybe offer help and treats over the twelve  months too.

It has become  a season of stress, hatefulness, jealousy, selfishness and loathing and with thanks to the marketing departments of businesses and television it has become utterly boring to the point that most are sick to the back teeth of it and can’t wait for it to end.

Every which way you turn there is someone trying to sell you something, give to charity (so the governors can realise a higher bonus), watch a telly repeat or spend money. You’d be safer at a rodeo or at the hands of Dick Turpin.

Once the New Year finally makes and appearance the credit cards are full, the bank accounts empty and the store loans are as high as they can be. Everywhere one goes there is more stress, gloom and despair for trying to impress and outdo as folk come to terms with their stupid choices.

It’s just not worth it when a simple meal, a walk in the park and some good conversation is all that is needed to cheer one up. Maybe some silly hats and jumpers would not go amiss and a small gift that means something would fit the bill.

Being a postie, I see families ordering a plethora of items online. Thats fine but add that to the car loads of goods and things that other companies deliver to them then it does make me stop and think. Thousands of pounds are spent on goods that a few days later lay broken or abandoned. Food is thrown out by the wheelie bin full. Bottle banks groan with the increased amount of empties from stifling parties. Might just as well well set fireto those bank notes and it may have been a little more exciting too.

No one stops to think about the click of a button and what that causes to the hoards of folk employed to deliver the item that was clicked on. No one says even a thank you for getting it to the buyer on time and before the big day.

Push into the queue to grab the last turkey or pair of socks. Gridlock roads so the handbag (that will be in a charity shop a few weeks later) can be bought (on higher purchase).  Curse and swear that a store has run out of cranberry sauce two weeks before the 25th. Be forced to work over-time to ensure that Santa gets a helping hand when they are the ones who also have a life and need to provide but are working to allow others to be sorted first.

Self, self, self. Me, me, me. I’m alright Jack sod everyone else. Thank you? Why should I, its your job!

Okay we all resign and see what happens then. No wine to grace the tasteless crystal, no happy Jonny as there will be no action figure or play station 4, no tree to shed its needles. No nothing and see how you bleat then.

A simple smile and thank you go a long way and make things worthwhile.

I just wonder if all the waste was put into a pile and shared out how many years that pile would last and still give pleasure?

Think about your actions. Can I afford that gift or extra food? Does that child really need 25 presents? Do we actually need the neighbours freezer space for the food for the family meal?

If the answer is no then stop and don’t do it. Honestly, don’t do it.

A much better gift at Christmas and The New Year is to bring happiness, love, fun and a smile to proceedings and a token gesture of something to boot that is affordable and apt is a bonus.

Seasonal Greetings and Happy Christmas to all for 2016 and all the years to come.

But Most Of All Be Amazing And Smile.

 

 

 

Cycling A 50/50 Course.

I recently invested some of my hard-earned spondulecks in this bad boy.

I must say after a few years of road cycling it is a dramatic change both in style and attitude when riding a 29″ wheeled mountain bike.

Due to the massive wheels (in comparison to the road bike set up) one feels the drag on the roads and its like towing a caravan behind but that is no bad thing as it makes one work harder to maintain a steady speed.

However, it’s when rider and machine meet the rough tracks and  byways that this bike comes into its own and the road bike would be stopped in its tracks immediately. The Cube not only looks great (and comes in quite cheep at £850) but it rolls over the rough terrain easily and stabily. It does take some getting used to and finding the right gear at the right time does help stop being halted by sudden soft ground or humps. Rider error is everything and small mistakes can cost a lot.

Having the brass cahonees to tackle steep descents with rocks, steps and loose gravel is an individual ability and I for one have very small additions so often wimp out but the more I do the better my confidence. The huge travel in the front suspension helps no end as do the quality brakes.

Its is a far more intense ride both physically and mentally as one has to constantly work the pedals and look where the next obstacle is. The countryside and nature prove more interesting and soul improving as the lack of cars and road noise allow one to enjoy nature. Its stunning I promise you and even struggling around a field is fun.

There is one fatal flaw though (its more common than road cycling and harrassingly annoying) and its the cyclists nemesis and that’s the dreaded puncture. I hate thorns, sharp flints and any objects that can penetrate the rubber tyres. I mean hate with a capital “H”.

There you are miles from nowhere and home and you either hear that unwelcome hiss or feel the flatness of a deflatedness.

I can’t believe in these modern times that a truly punctureless tyre or system has not been invented. It ruins a good ride, can be costly, causes injury and damage and can actually put one off riding without support.

Carrying spare tubes, tools, pumps etc is both impractical and highly frustrating.

I know there is the tubeless option where slim or synthetic polymer milks can be used to seal nicks and holes but they are expensive and on many bikes the are an extra costly upgrade. The tyres are a nightmare to fit and even a special pump has to be bought. This option is also not foolproof.

Yes there are slime inner tubes but these are quite useless against hawthorn or nails.

Why not a foam based agent that can be pumped into a tube that will maintain the required PSi when pumped up and that can last the life of a tyre?

Or a piece of moulded plastic that sits around the tube and in the tyre that will allow inflation to a desired pressure?

Even solid tyres that can be moulded to rims and when worn can be removed under a high heat by cycle shops?

There must be something better out there or that can be invented to put an end to punctures, sore fingers and being stranded far away from civilisation.

Help!!

Ideas welcome in the comments area or advise in what to do to cut down on breakdowns welcome there too.

In our modern world of technology and science there must be an easy and relatively cost-effective solution to this ongoing problem without causing too much weight gain, handling problems or fitting issues??

THERE JUST MUST BE A FIX!!!!!!

Have We Lost Our Way Part2??

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I know I spoke about this last week but I thought it worth further exploration as I only really touched on the money and greed side of things.

I am convinced that society wasn’t anywhere near what it is like today and attitudes and behaviour were simpler and less, well less vulgar.

I’m certainly not saying that everyone has changed for the bad. On the contrary. Most people are still fundamentally kind and morally okay. However, it’s the amount of wrong ones that has increased and in some areas has grown out of control.

Everywhere I go, whether walking through town or cycling in the countryside, I see litter. It’s not just a bit that has lost its way by being blown out of a bin or accidentally falling out of a bag or pocket. I talking about wrappers, empty cans, bags, papers and food being deliberately dropped because the owners cannot be bothered to find a bin or take it home. The countryside has become a dumping ground for household waste and its ugly and damaging to the landscape and wildlife. Its lazy, ignorant and downright disgusting, not to mention illegal. It was never as bad as this when I was a younger and if you were seen someone would pull you up for it. Today one can’t say anything in case one is attacked or abused by the culprits.

Where has the discipline gone? Why is this acceptable behaviour to set as examples to the younger generation? When did we become fearful of gently advising others of their anti-social actions? Why isn’t more done to combat this?

We have an ever-increasing amount of surveillance cameras watching our every move so why can’t this be used to catch and stop this mindless damage?

My father was telling me the other day about an incident outside the local library in Rothwell (the Northamptonshire one). Apparently, the kids sit on the wall outside to take advantage of the free WiFi offered by the library. Nothing wrong with that unless it is costing the library money but what I found terrible was the fact that these youths started jostling and shoulder bumping my father as he walked by to go into the building. Now he is quite unsteady on his feet and has to walk with a stick and this act nearly unbalanced him and had him over. Thankfully, one of the lads knew my father and told them to stop. Then, to my father’s horror, the biggest of these youths stood up and squared up into his face and he thought this lad was going to hit him. Fortunately, he just asked if my father was “Doctor Froment” and on hearing that he indeed was turned round and told this group that if he saw anyone of them or their mates touch or say anything bad to the doctor then he would “knock their block off”.

Phew!! All was well and there is some sense of honour and respect. It could have been a different outcome had it not been for the two lads who came to my father’s rescue. A fall at his age could have seriously injured or killed him and no doubt these thugs would have thought it funny.

There is no way I, or my friends to that matter, would have acted like that to the older generation. I hope to think the total opposite and we would have  offered to help.

I see children riding, at a fair distance from their parents, scooters and bicycles on the pavements and if you say anything then you geta mouth full of abuse. It’s dangerous for the kids and the other pedestrians and just imagine if they lost control and skidded into the road and path of an oncoming car or lorry. Why can’t these parents take responsibility for their loved ones and think about their actions. Parks, gardens and proper cycle lanes are there to use not the damned pavements.

Again when I was younger one was taught not to cycle or scooter on the path and if a policeperson saw you then you were for the high-jump.

One of the most aggling thing I see is teenagers and young adults who wear their trousers round their buttocks or lower. Not only does it make them walk like a duck, it shows their pants or worse. It makes you want to either pull them right down or up and buy them a belt. It is just so rubbish.

Oh, and whilst on the subject who thought it a good idea to wear lounge and nightwear in public? Have fashions become so low that one cannot see fit to have some dress sense and code of standard? I’m not saying we have to go around in a suit or dress for dinner but at least show some sense of decorum. Or is this a step too far.

Social behaviour has slipped and technology hasn’t helped but surely not everyone has to be subjected to others selfish ways. For instance; sit on a bus or train and it won’t be long before someone sits down with that tinny sound that is emitted from their headphones. Its meant to be personal not public. Or you get the person who has to shout into the phone whilst it’s on speaker mode so the whole carriage can enjoy the innane conversation. And lets not forget the pink-ponk-plunk from the games that have to be played to wile away the journey. Its crap. NO ITS BEYOND CRAP.Its unnecessary and selfish but it’s now an acceptable part of being in public.

No one talks to each other or gives that quaint greeting or “how-do-you-do?” any more and car driving has become a guessing game amongst some of the more prestigious car owners. They are so up themselves that a simple indication of where they are going seems beneath them or they have to drive like they are attached to the car in front. And don’t get me started on the fact that most of these drivers have bluetooth or hands free but insist on using their mobile phone as it is. Again, any gentle nudge or advise is returned with a barrage or verbal or physical abuse. The police just turn a blind eye to it and so it carries on and at times people are killed by this stupid and pointless action.

Oh dear; I appear to have  had a little or a lottle of a rant there but I am sure I am not alone in my hatred for some things that have crept into our ways of life.

It’s all to do with teaching right from wrong, instilling good moral values, discipline (both at home and at school), suitable punishments and proper education.

As I said at the beginning, it’s not the majority who are at fault, it’s the amount of people who are pulling the rest of us down who are to blame.

The thing is that my grandfather said the same about my father’s generation, my father said a similar thing of my generation and I have gone on to view my grievances about the generation to come. So no doubt they will say the same in the future.

 

Have We Lost Our Way?

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This must be one of the most frequently asked questions known to mankind now and forever.

Everywhere I look, whether the newspaper, television, social media or out and about I often ask myself what the hell is going on? How can I get off this “not-so merry-go-round”?

The answer of course is that most can’t as we are stuck in our own frustrating circle of nonsense with all the trappings of daily life. That’s not to say things are crap, depressing or sad. They mostly are not.

However, I just can’t get away from all the fact that so much is damaging our very existence and is so wasteful.

Everything appears to be run by money. Money has one of the loudest voices the world have ever experienced and is forcing decency and fair play out into the realms of extinction.

Sport is now full of corruption from drug taking (to get that little advantage over an opponent to be a winner) to match fixing.

High flying management chasing the dollar bill with little or no regard for those who actually do the work (for little pay)  so they can luxuriate in their bonuses and vast salaries.

Politicians spinning and regurgitating policies they know will fail just to get onto the gravy train to self promote and set themselves up for gold-plated pensions and jobs for the boys when elected out.

Reality television hopefuls with no talent or personality being sold the dream of fame and fortune to be trawled out as z-listed celebrities to host crap for future wastralls.

Vast lottery jackpots that ruin lives rather than enhance them.

Social media sites selling information and lives with no sense of responsibility for the very people who create the to and fro banter that so often is interpreted wrongly and hijacked by trolls.

My house is better than yours or my phone is more superior than all the others and just take a look at the car and labels I am wearing. I must be of a higher intelligence and social standing than you.

Is this what we have come to as a life form?

Where is the sense of humanity, community spirit and helping those less fortunate?

Why have we allowed so very few (who think they are elite) to rule our lives and dictate what and where we can go and do without any say? We speak our minds in mass rallies, online polls and at meetings and we are ignored if it doesn’t suit the agenda of the “Mighty few”.

The poor a fleeced of the little assets they have or have saved by those who have already got more than they will ever be able to use and this is done just about within the law. But even if they break the law nothing is done to punish them. They are just given more and told to go away and be forgotten about whilst the ones who have suffered get nothing and are just left to get on with things regardless and stop causing trouble or we will send the heavies round.

A new phone comes out monthly but how many of us use all the capabilities is can offer? The old one has more than enough unused stuff on it so why spend more for a new one? Oh yes, its shiny and new.

Cars are the same. Yes I know some will use it all but most will not very often.

Now the things that could and would be fantastic and financially beneficial let alone good  for the environmental the features and techniques in the building game.

Things like using the old tyres from vehicles, installing solar panels, fitting ground and air source pumps for heating, using good and efficient windows and doors and making homes future proof and comfortable with space-saving insides.

No we don’t get this as it costs too much and would eat into the billions of pounds of profit  the bosses make.

But they should lift the heads from the cash trough of “now;today” as it would save vast amounts of energy, money and lives in the future. But I guess they won’t  be around then so “nah, we won’t be doing that”.

Greed, envy, one-up-manship, fame and blinkered living is the result of money and its ruined the world beyond help.

All we can hope for is that future generations will learn to be happy together when money implodes and causes a world disaster.

STOP BEING GREEDY AND SELFISH.

Weight on My Mind. The Gadgets that Could help?????

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Like many people I struggle to keep my weight under control. Now I am by no means as round as the happy chap above but I am far from what my BMI tells me I should be.

Should we trust BMI?

Personally, I think it good for a guide but not as a “I must fit into the bands that are recommended as healthy” strict rule of thumb.

For me I would be woefully underweight and having been there I know I would not be happy or healthy.

It certainly doesn’t take into account bone density, body type or muscle ratio and it will not tell you if you are healthy BMI or not.

I class myself as a reasonably fit fifty year old man and work alone keeps me above average in the fitness stakes being a postman (on delivery I hasten to add). However, the body’s metabolism gets used to this and will compensate which is why many a new starter will notice weight loss to begin with but then will settle down, and sometimes gain weight, to a steady level.

I tend to hate diets and they seldom work as once the weight is lost the bad habits  creep back again and one usually sees a rise in weight gain so that’s pretty rubbish I think you will agree?

So what are the alternatives?

Well a good equation is eat less plus exercise more equals weight loss and a steady balance.

But what happens if you can’t exercise for any number of reasons. Health, time, responsibilities etc?

Its hard but there are ways and I, for one, want to try and follow this by example as I have not to date been very good at doing this.

I used to love running long distance as it was cheap (some shorts, a top and some trainers) to do and every time out was a challenge for oneself. However, due to injury, growing older and being plagued with “Plantafacaitis” (an inflammation and damage to tendons, arch and muscles in the foot and heal) I have had to call an end to running, jogging and even distance walking.

I am lucky in the fact that I also enjoy cycling. Road cycling is good but not so safe  in the winter months as slippy roads and small treadless tyres seldom work nicely together.It can also get a little monotonous at times. The answer is to invest in a new off-road mountain bike with 29″ wheels (called a 29er). Nice hey? But an expensive outlay so lets hope I wear it out through use not gathering dust and rust.

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I could have gone down the road of gym membership but its something I have tried and I find I just can’t keep the enthusiasm up as boredom quickly sets in and it takes so much time. I know one could make time but for now I shall enjoy the fresh air and a new discipline in cycling.

The gym is fine and does work if you can keep the interest and momentum up.

I shall also do more distance walking but at a more moderate pace and with orthotics to support the painful area. I may also experiment with sticks to see if that can help. Whilst I can I will.

So that’s the exercise sorted, if you can.

For those who can’t for other health issues there is normally some sort of exercise one can do. I would recommend a chat with a GP and or a fitness coach or physio as there has been so much advancement it kit and types of things that can be used. All you have to do is ask.

Now for the harder part. Well for me it is. For others it is just common sense or so very easy. So its back to school or the drawing board to try to change this.

All the things I love and enjoy are bad. Cake, sweets, crisps, bread, cream and cheese.

All  the things I loath are good. Salad, pulses, lentils, soya and coconut.

However, with the help of my loyal reader Lucy I intend to tackle this food problem and my bank account too.

By investing in vegetables, fish ( I love fish), chicken and some plants from the salad world (most in my mind are weeds and should remain planted or for use as compost) it should be easy to produce something good and hearty that is not fattening and sugary. Cut out the bad? No not completely but certainly cut back massively on the portion sizes and days when they are consumed.

I have also invested in a slow cooker to produce soups, stews and many other interesting dishes. It comes with some handy recipes to get one started so fingers crossed. Hopefully the outlay will pay dividends after a short while as I will spend less and therefore waste less.

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By changing these aspects of life I hope to address some of the depression issues that have blighted my past years. Its got to help but can surely do no harm.

I’ll Be Your Number One….

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The Motorola Dynatac Mobile phone or The Brick as it was nicknamed has been voted the number one Gadget of all time. This mighty invention cost around $4000 (about $10,000 today) when it was invented in around 1984, took ten hours to charge and produced an hour of talk time. One could only make and receive calls. Motorola invested millions of dollars in research and development (about $1.5 billion in today’s money which is a staggering amount) but without it things wouldn’t have changed much.

The average person would never have imagined being able to touch one let alone own one and lets face it most of us thought it a showy sort of Yuppie accessory that would never catch on.

How wrong can any of us be? We can hardly live without them today and the modern siblings can do so much more and I mean so much more!!!

But hang on a minute; does this gadget really earn the spot of number one? Jason Bradbury from the Gadget Show seems to think so and the folk they commissioned to vote.

I must admit I was sceptical at first but looking at the remit for the entry rules I gradually changed my thoughts.

All entries must have electronics in them to do stuff. They must also be able to do something and help our lives. They should be within the last 50 years. They must be a gadget.

There were contenders, and worthy contenders too, to rival this phone. The likes of the Apple iPhone, the GoPro action cam, the Kindle reader, The Panasonic Microwave??, The JVC Video Recorder, Occulus Rift VR and the Sony Walkman to name a few but they were not considered winners. They all made the top twenty though which is cool.

So lets look at this a little more deeply shall we?

Crap; do we have to?

No, but it may be fun. Well it is to me.

If Motorola hadn’t invested all that cash and brain-power into inventing this (at the time small) truly mobile phone then much of what we enjoy or don’t enjoy would never have come to pass.

I find it quite strange that as humans we find it hard to talk face to face but stick a phone or computer in our hands and we can talk for hours. Maybe it takes the personal out  of communication or it’s just less interactive. How many of us older ones were guilty of sneaking into a room to use the family phone to ring up a mate or girlfriend only to be bollocked by a parent for the size of the phone bill?

Today’s generation can enjoy many free minutes of air time or texts via their mobiles and have had their brains and lives taken over by these gadgets and that’s the rub; thats the payback of invention.

Our modern “Smart” phones are so much more than just a simple call making device. In fact they have replaced the need  for a camera, a games consul, a pen and paper, a music Walkman, a book, an encyclopedia and a computer. So if it was for that first ever “Brick” then things would be very different today and maybe very little would have changed.

So possibly I do agree that this  phone should  be number  one as it started a very big revolution in technology development.

Words…Can Do so Much…!

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Words spoken, written or sung can do so much good and so much damage and hurt.

I wonder how many people have said  things without thinking only to wish they could have taken them back or never said them aloud in the first place?

Our words can crush one or lift one to places unimaginable. They can create scenes of terror or beauty but can also be taken the wrong way if used poorly or are misinterpreted.

However we use them they can make a difference, at times subtle, at others huge, but a difference they can make.

Often when emotions are running high it’s when words are blurted out in a stream of hot venom or ecstasy and they can have catastrophic results for all, be extremely encouraging or very misleading. That is the power of language and we rely on it for almost everything.

Bullies use it to control, hide behind or be aggressive so as to beat down the other person. Nurses use it to calm and reassure. Advertisers use it to sell the things we don’t actually need but think we do. Teachers use it so others can learn. When lawyers use it it ccan be the difference between jail or freedom. Sat Navs use it to direct. It’s all around us in so many forms and sounds easy to control but is certainly far from that.

I know for one my mind can’t keep up with the thoughts and words I want or try to say. Even when writing I can get things totally out of context or kilter but once  out there they can’t be roped back in like an anchor or  flying kite.

Someone once said, but I can’t remember who at present, “That the pen is mightier than the sword” and it is so true. Yes a sword can maim  and kill but it can’t leave one mentally scarred or high on love or sell you a house or comfort a babe in arms.

We use words for debate and conversation but how many of us actually stop and think about the true meaning of what we say of are intending to say? They just seem to flow like a machine turning out an endless supply of sweets or bullets.

Oh yes its Edward Bulwer-Lytton who said the above quote in the early 1800s. 1839  to be precise.

When I was young I would get so wound up and angry that I couldn’t find the words to express  my state of mind that I would just hold my breath until I went blue and passed out. My brother would run into the house and tell mum “he’s holding his breath again” and mum would rush out and slap my legs.which would make me take a breath. I find it the same today but don’t do the holding of breath thing but having a larger vocabulary means that at times I say what shouldn’t be said or what I don’t actually want to say. Or at least something like that. I’m easily confused and misunderstood.

The two pictures above portray the value of words. Yes the top one for the onlooker can be amusing but the poor chap on the chair is obviously hurting and even his last friend isn’t supportive but luckily its a thought and not a spoken gesture.

Ah, the second is lovely if you like that sort of thing. However, if said in a sighing or gruff manner they could be very anger inducing. “Oh okay then don’t put yourself out or anything..twat!!” or “ah thanks mate that’s nice of you, sorry to keep you.”

So think before you speak, easier said than done I know, and remember that words can have a lifelong effect on others, be it for good or bad.

Thanks again my loyal, mad and weary readers or reader and please feel free to leave your own thoughts.

Friendships



Friendships or just friends come in many shapes and forms. One thing is that the circle of true friends dwindles as one grows older. That’s not to say that we don’t have friends in our lives when we reach middle age or older its just the type of friendships change.
When we first start going to school most of us have a huge friend pool to choose from and the number of mates seems countless but its only until we leave that we know the true meaning of best mate, friend or pal.

Some will move away, others will go to college, a few may be lucky to find employment and many will develop differing interests that will drift you apart. Whatever the reason is there will certainly be a drop in the size of one’s circle of friends.

Don’t be worried its just life’s way of sorting out stuff and one will find new people to hang around with or build interests alongside. However, its my experience and the stories of others that say that its one”s early companions that make for the strongest relationships. It makes perfect sense really as it those who know you best, have the more stories to tell and share and, as time goes on, have the most in common with you.

It was only just recently that this became blatantly obvious to me.

My oldest, best mate, Bladesey, hosted yet again a birthday celebration at his home. My other two old friends of more than thirty years also joined us. We all have stresses with work, money, life and all that crap but when we are together for a brief window of time we relax and everything else just ceases to exist. Of course beer, good food and a change in scenery helps but its the fact that we know each other so well and feel so at ease in our company that we can indulge in mindless rubbish such as fun, teasing, reminisce and chat or debate on an endless theme of topics. Each and everyone of us learns something new and at times another facet of ourselves. That has to be good; it has to!

For a while time stands still, life appears rosey and no hurdle is insurmountable. Okay we have to go back to our own lives and homes after a day or so and its fine as our own lives make who we are and its safe and comfortable to be back in one’s own familiar surroundings of home and bed.

The older we get the more we come to understand people. We may think we have loads of mates but are they really? Acquaintances, yes, but true friends? I doubt it. When life is just rolling along and we meet up in the pub, or for a weekly bike ride or that afternoon session of tea it all seems quaintly nice and friends are there. Work colleagues are chatty and supportive to their own needs and we have to get along professionally; but are they friend? Some maybe but most, naa. 

Just wait til something serious happens and see how many visit the hospital ward, or come over to help around the home. Watch the hordes that never even send a card or word of support. Count the numbers who help. One or two if you are lucky. These are friends; the ones who can be relied on; the people who are just there, not necessarily to say or do anything, but they are silently offering support and comfort and are there.

On the other hand it doesn’t have to be something serious. How many buddies could you honestly ask, and feel comfortable with, to go on holiday with or attend a festival together? Its not that easy is it? You may ask but will those invited want to spend intimate time with you? This is another example of getting to know acquaintances from truly good mates.

You probably think you love some more than your family,if being brutally honest,  but when push comes to shove family will often be the last ones standing. So think again. 

Its very sad that all friendships, and family come to think about it, need nurturing. Some more than others and deep rooted feelings will often stand the test of time but one thing is for sure they can be easily damaged or can fizzle out unless worked on. They can also come crumbling to a messy halt if one abuses their trust or help or confidence in you.

I’ve seen a few over the years through a number of reasons that have slipped into a friendless and lonely life often resorting to living on the streets. At first the hand of support and help is offered but through self abuse, ill health, a mindset to self destruct, drug dependency or a combination of problems that hand is withdrawn and one is left alone with nowhere to turn to and becoming a victim of society. Which can be very cruel.

We are not very good at traumatic help here in The UK (and I guess its similar or worse throughout the world) and it is amazing how quickly one can find themselves without a safety net.

A happily married couple with children, a nice house, comfortable jobs and all the trappings of what should be a happy life with friends abound can be scuppered by the wrong life choices.

One tiny thing can bring that all tumbling down. An innocent bet on the National could lead to a gambling addiction so bad it ruins family and friendships to the core for say the man. He then gets kicked out of the home, his debts mount he then can’t afford the bedsit and ultimately is sacked from work. With no one to turn to and help being refused or squandered he becomes a victim of the street. His health deteriorates rapidly and by middle age dies sad, angry and full of regret. The same scenario can be played out for drugs, alcohol, having an affair, fraud, crime or depression.

Often the health service can’t offer quick enough or comprehensive help and some just fall through the gaps. We have no or little contact with neighbours and the community support is nonexistent. Families are spread over many counties and friends live miles away. Everything is okay til something bad happens. Then bang and the spiral of downward doom begins. We can’t force all we hold dear to live close by but making an effort, whether it be in person, by telephone, e-mail or the occasional letter, to keep in contact will help bolster the relationship for the good.

That’s why its important for friends to try a catch these problems in the bud and get support and admission that there is a problem. 

So what I am saying is is this. As one trundles through life take a step back every so often and look at what you have. Money in the bank or the bigger house may seem cool but friendship and support are far more important. The former are easily lost and can fail you to the point of destruction where as friendships, true friendships, will remain.

Life isn’t easy but its certainly better with mates and support and fun.

Thanks for reading and feel free to comment if you like as these are only my waffling thoughts and experiences. I in no way want to preach to others about life. I just wanted to share my feelings.